Real tools. Real support. Real change.

I’m here to help you regulate in the moment, repair old patterns, and feel proud of how you show up in your parenting, your relationships, and your life.

Hello & Welcome

This is the place where you can finally breathe a little easier, find steadiness in the chaos, and reconnect with the parts of yourself you thought were gone.

This work exists because I understand one thing very clearly: you don’t just want to cope. You want to feel calm in your body, connected in your relationships, and proud of how you show up in your life...without the guilt, shame, or pressure to be perfect.

And more than that? You want tools that actually work in the moment: when your child is melting down, when your partner hits a nerve, when your nervous system feels like it’s about to short-circuit. You want support that doesn’t just explain why you react, but helps you actually shift those patterns, for good.

I’ve spent more than a decade as a psychologist, sitting with people in their hardest moments. And I’ve been there myself too; navigating overwhelm, self-doubt, and the heavy load of trying to keep it all together. That mix of clinical expertise and lived empathy is what shapes everything I offer here.

The therapy, guides, and workshops you’ll find here are all grounded in what I believe deeply:
Real tools for real life (because insight isn’t enough)
Shame-free, trauma-informed support (because you’re not broken)
You at the centre (because your steadiness changes everything around you)

It’s how I help you move from spiralling and shutting down…to steady, grounded, and proud of how you show up - as a parent, a partner, and a human.

Why this work, why this way, and why it matters

I’ve always been drawn to the why.


Even as a teenager reading crime novels, I wasn’t hooked by who did it, I wanted to understand what made them tick. Why they snapped, spiralled, disconnected, disappeared.

That curiosity never left me. It just evolved into a calling.

I began studying psychology in 2006, and went on to complete my Masters and Doctorate in Forensic Psychology. Since qualifying in 2015, I’ve spent over a decade supporting people in some of the most emotionally intense corners of life; from secure units and prisons, to inpatient hospitals and community services.

Through it all, one thing became clear:
People don’t just need insight. They need support that changes how they feel in the moments that matter most.

My approach: Real conversations. Regulated change.

Yes, we talk. But this isn’t “just talking.”


We get curious about where your emotional patterns began, and what’s been keeping them stuck. Then we gently untangle that web, while building new tools for emotion regulation and relational repair in real time.

Whether we’re working together 1:1, or you’re using my digital resources, you’ll learn to:

  • Understand your nervous system and what triggers you

  • Regulate emotions while life is happening, not just in hindsight

  • Set boundaries, ask for what you need, and show up with compassion (for others and yourself)

Because it’s not about being perfect.
It’s about being proud of how you show up, even whn things are hard.

Therapeutic foundations (that feel anything but clinical)

My work is grounded in trauma-informed, evidence-based practice, and shaped by the real-world emotional trenches I’ve sat in, professionally and personally. I bring a unique blend of psychological depth and practical care, drawing from:


DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy)

Tools for emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and relational effectiveness. I lead DBT services, co-chair the South Wales DBT Local Area Network, and have received the Association of Psychological Therapies Excellence in DBT Award.


EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing)

For healing trauma, shifting deep-seated emotional responses, and restoring inner safety.


Cognitive Analytic Therapy (CAT)

A compassionate lens on relational patterns, identity, and how past experiences shape the way you move through the world.

These models inform how I help you move from stuck to steady, insight to action, guilt to groundedness.

Support That Meets You, Wherever You Are

After building my business alongside NHS roles since 2016, I’m now stepping more fully into this work by expanding what I offer so more people can access support anytime, anywhere.


That means creating digital courses, downloadable tools, and on-demand resources that offer the same warmth, clinical integrity, and real-world application I bring to every session.

Because you deserve tools that meet you in the chaos, not just the calm.


You deserve support that sees you at the centre.

If You’re Tired of Carrying It All Alone

Dear You, the One Trying So Hard,

If you’re here, I imagine you’re carrying more than most people realise.


You’ve done the reading. You’ve tried the tools. You know what’s happening inside you, but in the heat of the moment, it still feels impossible to stay calm, to stay present, to stay connected.

Maybe you're snapping more than you want to.
Maybe you're shutting down just to get through the day.
Maybe you're holding it all together on the outside, but inside, you're tired, stretched thin, and wondering if something’s wrong with you.

I want you to know:
You are not broken.
You are not failing.
You’re a person with a nervous system that’s been carrying too much, for too long, without the steady support you actually deserve.

You don’t have to figure it out alone.

Whether we work together in therapy or you explore my digital tools, everything I create is designed for real life. The chaos, the triggers, the tenderness, and the hard moments that don’t wait for a quiet hour.

We start where you are.
With care, without shame.
Less spiralling. More steadiness.
You at the centre. Always.

With warmth,
Nicola

You don’t have to take my word for it.

Hear from clients who were once where you are now, and what changed for them.


Thank you for giving me the space, time, tools, tips, and encouragement to process. I really felt comfortable opening up to you and grateful for your support, non-judgemental listening ear and trust.

Everything feels lighter.


You really are brilliant and what you do and I am incredibly thankful.

Take the free quiz: What’s Your Emotional Coping Style?

Discover how you respond under stress, and get personalised strategies to help you regulate and reconnect.

Not ready to dive in fully? That’s okay. This quick quiz gives you a gentle starting point to understand your patterns and learn small, doable steps toward steadier days. You’ll walk away with clarity, compassion, and tools you can use right away - no pressure, no 6hame.

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